Every Once In Awhile We Need a Little Reminder

I have to laugh. I wasted some time this past Saturday trying to help a stranger out who emailed me (I get tens and tens of emails every day from people wanting help). Sadly, she ended up being rude, insulting and acting like spoiled, petulant child stomping her feet when she didn’t get the answers she wanted.

In her last message, she said “I’m not even in the same country as you so would hardly be any threat to your market share yet you couldn’t share even a minute piece of helpful information.”

Mind you, I had just spent the course of several emails back and forth with her over a 2 or 3 hour period trying to help her.

(Sweetheart, I’m not looking for new clients so that has nothing to do with it. Don’t blame other people for your inability to understand and lack of business sense and comprehension skills.)

Here’s the funny thing, she had emailed me a month or so back. I replied, but only out of courtesy and gave it as much time and energy as I wanted to give it, which wasn’t much.

See, over the years, I have developed a very keen sixth sense about these things. I couldn’t tell you why exactly, but I just knew that she was someone I shouldn’t expend my time or energy on.

There’s just a way some people ask questions that I just know they aren’t going to understand anything and/or they have some kind of self-entitled, do-everything-and-spell-everything-out-for-me-so-I-don’t-have-to-do-any-thinking-or-work-myself-and-of-course-I want-it-for-free kind of attitude, even if there’s nothing overtly on the surface of their words to indicate that. I just KNOW when I’m dealing with someone like that.

But I ignored my previous gut instinct when she emailed me again and decided that if she put in the effort to reach out twice, I would give her benefit of the doubt. And it got me nothing but a slap in the face.

So yet again, it’s a reminder to listen to your first instincts. Your intuition, your gut, ALWAYS knows when something or someone is not right for you.

But don’t worry. If you forget, there will always be a reminder like this to help you remember. 😉

2 Responses

  1. (Name Withheld by Request) says:

    I laughed out loud at your entitlement description.

    I co-manage an admin group on LinkedIn, and I cannot tell you how many people respond to me with a basic “fix my problems” when they get my welcome to the group message. The self-entitled, do-everything-and-spell-everything-out-for-me-so-I-don’t-have-to-do-any-thinking-or-work-myself-and-of-course-I want-it-for-free kind of attitude. You nailed it with that expression.

    I’m not a career coach, I don’t purport to be, and I just run a group. I’m looking for work the same as you, buddy, so asking me to do everything for you isn’t going to cut it.

    Thanks for the laugh!

  2. Thanks for the reminder!

    I have had the same thing happen on numerous occasions 🙂 Being the moderator of a large group has it’s moments, doesn’t it?

    I love how so many people want shortcuts to success and aren’t willing to ‘work in the trenches’ to gain the knowledge and experience we’ve worked for so hard.

    You did the right thing by trying to help someone, it’s a shame they’re of the “entitlement” mentality!

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